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Why am I just white?

by Paul 20. November 2007 14:53

Actually, I’m not white at all. I’m a kind of washed out beige color, and I don’t think I’ve ever known a black person. I’ve known many people who were various shades of brown who were labeled "black," and I’ve known some "black" people who were lighter than I am. That’s my point: They’re labels, not descriptions although the average person of my race has a lighter complexion than the average person of the race called black.

A common reason for labels to change is what I’ll call euphemization, although I’ve never found it in a dictionary. Changing our name for something to a word that "sounds nicer" is usually an indication that we are somehow embarrassed by the nature of something, not just by its name. A couple of examples should demonstrate this.

In the late 19th and early 20th Century doctors had to certify that some "sanitarium" patients were "lunatics." Today, most of us reserve that word for other drivers and politicians we don’t agree with. But in the late 1800s, lunatic had become a more polite way to say "mad" or "berserk." Sadly, mental illness hasn’t changed dramatically in the last 150 years, although a number of labels have come into and gone out of favor, in addition to mad, crazy, or lunatic. "Insane" was a nice way of saying it for a while: Not sane, when sane just meant "free from hurt or disease." But that eventually became offensive, and no one relished having to tell a parent that a child was "insane." The label "mentally ill" seems to be headed down the same path.

Also in my lifetime, the words "moron," "idiot," and "imbecile" fell out of acceptable usage. The same limitations are now described as mildly, moderately, or severely mentally retarded. And surprise! We’re not happy hanging the "retarded" label on people, so in the schools we use "slow learner" and elsewhere terms like "developmentally limited" or even "exceptional."

The accepted name for that small room in your home with the plumbing fixtures and the ventilator fan has changed just as much. Even if it had no tub or shower, it used to be called a bathroom. We’re embarrassed about the fact that we still have to do number one and number two just like all other mammals, so the words that said what it was really for became obscenities. Then, since we knew what everyone really went to the bathroom to do, we started calling it a "restroom," although there’s seldom a bed or recliner there. And then, ooops! "Restroom" comes to sound primitive and smelly, so we call it a "washroom."

I’ve been "white" as long as I can remember. There are some terms intended to be insulting to my race, and while I get the message, none of them bother me much because I’ve never seen those words accompanied by lynch ropes or cattle prods. I understand that others cannot say the same thing about derogatory terms applied to their race, and, frankly, I share in their repugnance at those words.

When I was a boy, some six decades ago, I knew people who were referred to as "colored." The word "Negro," though it’s only Latin for black or dark, I don’t remember hearing or reading much except in studying geography and the social sciences. A colored person would sometimes become angry at any reference to Africa or African, almost as though that were equivalent to the unforgivable "n" word.

Even though the word "colored" was still in common usage, a prominent woman of that race in the city where I lived took offense at hearing it in my vocabulary. "Don’t call me ‘colored,’" she said. "That sounds like there’s something wrong with who I am. I’d rather be called (n-word) than colored. Just say black."

Soon after that the "black is beautiful" slogan became popular. All of the "black" people I knew were happy about it, as was I. To me, it seemed to have eliminated one of the invisible walls between us, walls I never liked. Although those were troubled times – governors standing on bridges, dogs sicced on peaceful demonstrators, the murder of Rev. Martin Luther King – I believe that it was the beginning of true liberation from the legacy of slavery.

As a psychologist I’m sure that words influence our perception. Can you deny that you expect a boy called "Percival" to be different from one called "Spike"? Wouldn’t it make a difference whether I described you as "youthful" as opposed to "immature"? Even though it’s rarely descriptive in a literal sense, "black" connotes a sense of wholeness, of equality, of pride. White people don’t need to call themselves "uncolored" or "pinkish," and certainly not "European-American."

I feel awkward about calling a black person an "African American." There are several reasons for that. One is that I’ve known people who hailed from Africa who were as Caucasian as any of my ancestors, so technically, it doesn’t define the person’s race. Another is that the individual’s forebears may not have lived in Africa for many generations. If his or her great-great-great grandparents grew up in, say, France, wouldn’t a name such as "black French-American" be more truthful? If, indeed, we need any kind of label at all.

But the biggest problem is that it seems as though I’m apologizing for the person being who he or she is. It’s as though I’d rather not tell you that the chairman of the philosophy department, or my cousin’s boyfriend, or my next door neighbor, is a member of the Negroid race. I’m trying to find a gentler way of saying it. As though it’s something undesirable, like retardation or psychosis, or what we go to the "washroom" to discharge. After a generation of "black" being the accepted name, every time someone says "African-American" it plants the suggestion that "black" is not so good, neither as a word nor as a race.

I’m genuinely sorry that people of that darker race have been treated poorly, but changing their label won’t change that, and it certainly won’t change how they are perceived, at least not for the better. If you are a member of that race, and you insist I call you African American, you won’t be hurting me in any way, but I believe you will be doing yourself a disservice. It’s as OK to be black as it is to be white or oriental. In my opinion, there’s no need to periodically change what you call yourself, because there’s nothing wrong with what you are.

Paul Karsten Fauteck, Psy.D.

PS: Several people have called my attention to the fact that "Oriental" can be taken as an insult. That's not my intention. Please see "comments" to this post. PKF

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11/23/2007 3:03:58 PM #

Napoleon

this is brilliant

Napoleon

11/23/2007 5:39:12 PM #

Harold E. Kenley

We've given black Americans lots of reasons to feel insecure. It's OK if they want to put us to the test, to determine if they get equal respect from white Americans or not. Surely their leaders could come up with something better than the name change. That's counter productive.

Harold E. Kenley

12/8/2007 8:37:30 PM #

Jack

It's ironic that in an attempt to bring different groups closer together, labels and label changes can actually serve to prolong our separateness. BTW, my Japanese high school girlfriend would have taken exception to your last paragraph. She once told me that rugs are oriental, people are Asian. Smile

Jack

Jack

12/10/2007 10:14:02 PM #

Marv Lurie

When I lived in Chicago I would have used the word Oriental. After all, we have the Oriental Institute at the University of Chicago. Since moving to the Pacific Northwest I have been corrected and since learned not to call Asians Orientals, which is considered demeaning. This is specially so here where there are lots of people of Asian ancestry. Actually, I'm sort of pink. Marv

Marv Lurie

12/11/2007 12:24:49 AM #

PKF

Thanks for calling this to my attention. Insulting anyone on the basis of ethnicity is not something I want to do, ever.

Technically, the three main racial divisions of humanity are caucasian or caucasoid, negroid, and mongoloid. In some contexts, those distinctions are useful. For example, regarding susceptibility to particular diseases or response to medications. “Oriental” is commonly used as a synonym for mongoloid, as white and black are used instead of caucasian and negroid. India is also in Asia, but the typical person from New Delhi has some genetic differences from the typical native of Shanghai.

The word “mongoloid” has been misused to describe sufferers of Down’s Syndrome, although physically they do not resemble people of that race. Thus many mistakenly believe that’s all it means, and people commonly called oriental would not like it as a substitute.

In most cases, the word “Asian” will do just fine. When it’s useful (and acceptable!) to refer to race, I don’t know what the solution is. It’s sad that the word “oriental” has taken on negative connotations.

PKF

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